As many of you did, I recently came across "An Open Letter to Delhi Boy" by Ms Shahana Nair Joshi. It was a brilliant, witty, stereotypical racist joke on a particular community, in this case Delhites( Punjabis to be More specific). I felt it was humourous and personally felt nothing offensive though i felt that the language was too harsh for a public outburst in a private domain, as in this case A BLOG.
Being from the South myself, i was in for a cultural shock when i visited Delhi for the first time. I can quite relate to what the author was saying pretty, much sums up my opinion about the same. Even i cud not understand as to 1.Why one should fall (prostrate)at the feet of anyone elderly 2. Why one should not eat Non Veg on Tuesday 3.Why People play loud music with Big Speakers 4. Why people pour coloured water on you inspite of you not being interested in Holi 5. Why every modern Girl is a Slut and Why every seedha girl was a behenji 6.Why one should not say TERI in front of parents but can greet "Oye Behenchod" for no apparent reason.7. Why eating with Hand was a crime 8.on why the language of south was Madrasi and all the southies madrasi
A host of other cultural shocks.
But personally i didn't feel offended by any of these things any time, i felt it was an oppurtunity to accept that other cultures also exist. All cultures are not like my own, there are different cultures out there each strikingly different from my own and having equal right to be present in this world. That didn't however stop me from sharing the occasional Racist Joke with my Telugu friends, ridiculing other cultures( a bit of racist in everyone). But i guess it is called racism if it is out in the open. My personal belief says, there are only two kinds of people in the world............1. People who are racist 2. People who dont show that they are racist
Having said that my disregard to a few cultural aspects of other cultures haven't stopped me from forging interesting( if not long lasting) friendships.
For ex: Digvijay Singh, with whom i have the Usual Delhi Bashing fight with.
Kaustubh Bijalwan, whose ethnicity, i dont know as yet
Suman BIHARI kumar, who spells Shah Rukh Khan as Saa Ruk Khan
These 3 are just to name a few, and we dont agree on many counts..........Digvijay ridicules my south film fascination just as i ridicule his DELHI roots
I dont agree on a lot of counts with a host of other people, but that doesnot stop me from making new aquaintainces(dont know if thats the right spelling).
i loathe Rajma Chawal, have no liking for sarson ka saag and the punjabi cuisine in general,cant stand babbu mann, make fun of the"Flaunt it" attitude
But iam willing to accept the fact that not many people like my(or other southies) 1.Film fixation 2. geeky nature 3.cold attitude 4.Lack of fun 5. coconut oil 6. dark skin 7. idli dosa 8. eating with hands 9. speaking an alien language etc
Just as i have every right to dislike and ridicule, i do accept the fact that even they do and probably even i wud had i been in their shoes.
So i believe that RACIST is there in everyone of us. It is nothing to be ashamed of. It's very natural to expect we are on the right track and everyone else is a fool. saying that "we are not racist" is a lol joke, everyone is a racist. But i guess it is called RACISM only if u want to enforce it,which probably u shudn't be doing.
There is reason as to why every culture is the way it is. The South being unaffected by any invasions, the people are much less aggressive in general and the north being invaded so many times needed valour and aggression to defend their identity . Factors like these have shaped a region's identity.
Yes, i do not accept , infact ridicule other cultures.......but iam willing to accept the fact that they have every right to exist just as any other. The racist never lies dormant you see
I think the best way forward for humanity is to either be united as ONE (Impossible) or to be divided into individuals(possible). If the society is fragmented into units as small as individuals we wud have far lesser problems than as groups.
The power of self centered thinking will help man progress much more than what group/community based thinking does.
I finally sign off by saying that stereotypes dont exist without a reason and the Girl's description of a typical DELHI BOY stereotype was to the T...........as perfect and accurate as other stereotyped descriptions i see of Bongus,Chinkis,Gultes,Mallus and Gujjus.
But the point is dont let it come in way of your everyday life..................Feel free to disagree but dont be foolish to speak out( like that girl and me)
P.S: I loved that girl's inhibhited care free nature. Good or Bad ,she spoke her mind. A quality lacking severely in today's women.Girl's please try to be like her because
Intelligence is the new SEXY
Friday, September 16, 2011
Friday, June 17, 2011
My first Love/Infactuation/Attraction story
Since most of you know,iam a serious advocator of LOVE IS BULL SHIT,HORSE SHIT campaign and that i openly/secretly critisize PDA(public display of affection)and make ROFL comments about LOL couples,it might be surprising to see that iam writing such a blogpost. This idea was given by my very good friend Ankit Srivatsava and Suman Kumar.Infact they told me to write my love story which might be the ROFLEST story you ever heard,bcoz it is not a love story,infact there is no love, but comedy ending in tragedy.........most people like my room mates and few juniors also know that LOL story and it is a matter of great ridicule.It is one thing iam not proud of but dont regret it as well.
So iam rather writing about some events that what normal people would call love but i prefer to call it imbalance of emotions,that temporarily relaxes the mind and givs relief and something which is a SWEET NOTHING.It is definitely not Love,i know it because iam not one of those fools who fall in love every time they see a beautiful girl or every time some one talks in a friendly manner.It is just what You call a DISTURBANCE.
as i write this it is becoming increasingly difficult for me to procede further because,i have always written about others,from my perspective..........when my own eyes have to keep an eye on myself and give their perspective,it is difficult.
I must be about 14 years old,just when the moustache starts appearing and you dont know whether to shave it or not.The time when You start to stare at movie posters a little longer than usual,to have a better view of what the heroine has to offer,when you hear weird stories from friends and try to make out from that How children are actually born.......a time which confuses all the while,but still enjoyable,the fun in being half knowledge,trying to understand various things,understanding them wrong etc.....It was all that time.
Anyway i wudnt give much details because that wud make it evident who she was,but the good thing is she is not in my fb list,orkut's frnd list etc.So i can be a bit more open.
Anyway when i first saw this girl,nothing happened,because i dont know what happened,just felt like seeing a bit longer but not like the heroine in movie poster.It was more like SEEING HIMALAYAS A BIT LONGER,nothing to do with lust,just pure appreciation of simplistic beauty without craving for enjoying it.It was like the famous dialogue from Telugu film TAJMAHAL CHOODATANIKE,VUNDATANIKI KAADU(taj mahal is for us just to see,not to live inside).I realised i was staring longer than the social protocol but no one noticed. I went to my seat and started appreciating her even more.
Now girls are of two types,who continue to be beautiful after they talk,who look ugly when they start talking.She was of the third type,rarely talked.The lessons of Indian History,Gas laws,poems in telugu never disturbed me because i was already disturbed.
I never noticed her talking EXTRA,or talking more than required.She spoke just how much was required,as if she measures each word before talking and sadly i never featured in requirements and thats mostly because i talk less than required with strangers.I appreciate myself for one thing,that in such disturbing times,it is easy to lose hold of one's own self and purpose.But i always was the Most organised one,finishing everything before time and being always/mostly first.I cherish that fact that i didnt lose grip on my life.It went on as before.
We are coming to the end of the post,because i dont have much to say.During the 6 months i saw her,all that ever happened was i was more dumbstruck than the previous day and the way she carried herself was very graceful.It commanded respect.I probably talked to her once and that conversation went for 6 secs
Describing her beauty is not my cup of tea.I read many blogposts which describe someone as river,snow,hair like the night sky etc etc etc..........but i never read completely because poetic descriptions bore me(unless i use them).To say in one word,she can be the model of cosmetic company with applying any of them.
And thats it..............the story of my WHATEVER YOU CALL IT................i saw many girls and i see everyday and Most of them with lust filled eyes,some of them with curiosity and very few with respectable appreciation.SHE WAS ONE OF THEM.
So iam rather writing about some events that what normal people would call love but i prefer to call it imbalance of emotions,that temporarily relaxes the mind and givs relief and something which is a SWEET NOTHING.It is definitely not Love,i know it because iam not one of those fools who fall in love every time they see a beautiful girl or every time some one talks in a friendly manner.It is just what You call a DISTURBANCE.
as i write this it is becoming increasingly difficult for me to procede further because,i have always written about others,from my perspective..........when my own eyes have to keep an eye on myself and give their perspective,it is difficult.
I must be about 14 years old,just when the moustache starts appearing and you dont know whether to shave it or not.The time when You start to stare at movie posters a little longer than usual,to have a better view of what the heroine has to offer,when you hear weird stories from friends and try to make out from that How children are actually born.......a time which confuses all the while,but still enjoyable,the fun in being half knowledge,trying to understand various things,understanding them wrong etc.....It was all that time.
Anyway i wudnt give much details because that wud make it evident who she was,but the good thing is she is not in my fb list,orkut's frnd list etc.So i can be a bit more open.
Anyway when i first saw this girl,nothing happened,because i dont know what happened,just felt like seeing a bit longer but not like the heroine in movie poster.It was more like SEEING HIMALAYAS A BIT LONGER,nothing to do with lust,just pure appreciation of simplistic beauty without craving for enjoying it.It was like the famous dialogue from Telugu film TAJMAHAL CHOODATANIKE,VUNDATANIKI KAADU(taj mahal is for us just to see,not to live inside).I realised i was staring longer than the social protocol but no one noticed. I went to my seat and started appreciating her even more.
Now girls are of two types,who continue to be beautiful after they talk,who look ugly when they start talking.She was of the third type,rarely talked.The lessons of Indian History,Gas laws,poems in telugu never disturbed me because i was already disturbed.
I never noticed her talking EXTRA,or talking more than required.She spoke just how much was required,as if she measures each word before talking and sadly i never featured in requirements and thats mostly because i talk less than required with strangers.I appreciate myself for one thing,that in such disturbing times,it is easy to lose hold of one's own self and purpose.But i always was the Most organised one,finishing everything before time and being always/mostly first.I cherish that fact that i didnt lose grip on my life.It went on as before.
We are coming to the end of the post,because i dont have much to say.During the 6 months i saw her,all that ever happened was i was more dumbstruck than the previous day and the way she carried herself was very graceful.It commanded respect.I probably talked to her once and that conversation went for 6 secs
Describing her beauty is not my cup of tea.I read many blogposts which describe someone as river,snow,hair like the night sky etc etc etc..........but i never read completely because poetic descriptions bore me(unless i use them).To say in one word,she can be the model of cosmetic company with applying any of them.
And thats it..............the story of my WHATEVER YOU CALL IT................i saw many girls and i see everyday and Most of them with lust filled eyes,some of them with curiosity and very few with respectable appreciation.SHE WAS ONE OF THEM.
Saturday, May 7, 2011
Suicide
Recently I came across the news that Some IIT-M undergraduate had committed suicide for the reason that his Project was incomplete and his degree would be extended for six months.He had left a facebook message for his friends saying something which meant 'I TRIED BUT LOST'.I feel sorry for his friends and family and may God give them strength.I dont know what feelings i have towards the guy because I dont empathise with him,at the same time i dont hate him because THE MIND sometimes does very strange things and for that split second it may lead you to do anything from MURDER to RAPE TO SUICIDE.If only he had thought for that extra fraction of a second.
That is not the crux of my blogpost.After the death of the student,many students,parents etc etc condemned the IIT education system for it being Super tough and stressful.Fair enough.Had it not been for his suicide,if he had got a great job or found out something great,the same strata of society would have been heaping praises about him and the IIT system,saying that it pushes students beyond their limits,and that is the reason for this boy's success only here it was beyond any limit.As i told you,if only for that extra split second.
So, is it really the IIT system that is responsible. But i see that happening in regional colleges.OK,so college is responsible.I see that happening in schools as well.Ok education is responsible.I see lovers committing suicide.Clearly there is no generalisation as for the reason.
But I see a parallel.Most committing suicides are Youth.
This is where i see suicides as a failure of society as a whole. The first in the line of firing are parents. I see parents who scold their children for getting a 95 in Maths and not a 100,and by scolding i mean real harsh.What that sort of scolding.bashing,repeatedly stressing does to a child/teenager is IT TENDS THEM TO BELIEVE THAT IT IS THE ULTIMATE GOAL AND THERE IS NOTHING BEYOND THAT IN LIFE.As in the above case it was JOB AFTER PASSOUT.
Every Dog who knows that Iam an IITian asks me HOW MUCH SALARY DO IITians get.Some people say to me You are an IITian. People will form queues infront of your house to offer their girls in marriage.Some people say DO IAS.You will get a lot in dowry.
All this might tend me to believe JOB IS ULTIMATE.YOU HAVE A JOB,YOU HAVE A LIFE.oTHERWISE YOU ARE A UNCARED,UNWANTED ENTITY.
all this stems from the attitude of people in exaggerating success beyond it's worth and dissecting failure beyond it's impact(read again,i think it has a lot of meaning).
On the flip side one may ask,it's the basic human nature and society can't and probably wont change that.People have to fight against the conditions than ask to change them.This is where i think the role of parents come in.Because PARENTS ARE NOT SOCIETY,PARENTS ARE YOU.So,it is the duty of parents to say to children LIFE IS NOT AS DIFFICULT AND SUCCEEDING IS NOT HALF AS IMPORTANT AS THE ABILITY TO FACE FAILURE.
Whether parents will change or society will change or will individuals change.............I DONT KNOW.
But i request everyone to think for that extra split second............
P.S if i start acting strangely,show me this blogpost.........because no mind is strong enough at all times to face it's own tricks
That is not the crux of my blogpost.After the death of the student,many students,parents etc etc condemned the IIT education system for it being Super tough and stressful.Fair enough.Had it not been for his suicide,if he had got a great job or found out something great,the same strata of society would have been heaping praises about him and the IIT system,saying that it pushes students beyond their limits,and that is the reason for this boy's success only here it was beyond any limit.As i told you,if only for that extra split second.
So, is it really the IIT system that is responsible. But i see that happening in regional colleges.OK,so college is responsible.I see that happening in schools as well.Ok education is responsible.I see lovers committing suicide.Clearly there is no generalisation as for the reason.
But I see a parallel.Most committing suicides are Youth.
This is where i see suicides as a failure of society as a whole. The first in the line of firing are parents. I see parents who scold their children for getting a 95 in Maths and not a 100,and by scolding i mean real harsh.What that sort of scolding.bashing,repeatedly stressing does to a child/teenager is IT TENDS THEM TO BELIEVE THAT IT IS THE ULTIMATE GOAL AND THERE IS NOTHING BEYOND THAT IN LIFE.As in the above case it was JOB AFTER PASSOUT.
Every Dog who knows that Iam an IITian asks me HOW MUCH SALARY DO IITians get.Some people say to me You are an IITian. People will form queues infront of your house to offer their girls in marriage.Some people say DO IAS.You will get a lot in dowry.
All this might tend me to believe JOB IS ULTIMATE.YOU HAVE A JOB,YOU HAVE A LIFE.oTHERWISE YOU ARE A UNCARED,UNWANTED ENTITY.
all this stems from the attitude of people in exaggerating success beyond it's worth and dissecting failure beyond it's impact(read again,i think it has a lot of meaning).
On the flip side one may ask,it's the basic human nature and society can't and probably wont change that.People have to fight against the conditions than ask to change them.This is where i think the role of parents come in.Because PARENTS ARE NOT SOCIETY,PARENTS ARE YOU.So,it is the duty of parents to say to children LIFE IS NOT AS DIFFICULT AND SUCCEEDING IS NOT HALF AS IMPORTANT AS THE ABILITY TO FACE FAILURE.
Whether parents will change or society will change or will individuals change.............I DONT KNOW.
But i request everyone to think for that extra split second............
P.S if i start acting strangely,show me this blogpost.........because no mind is strong enough at all times to face it's own tricks
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Saas-Bahu quarrels,Senior Junior ragging,Birthday parties
The title seems to be strange at first sight with no apparent relation with any of the above 3 situations with each other,but the greatest philosopher alive(by default,thats me) has noticed a strange behaviour of the human psyche common with all these three events.Now let us start with what prompted me to start this topic.
I have been met with many questions as to why iam against parties.This is an answer.
Yesterday was one of those usual lazy saturdays that started of for me at 12 noon.Without brushing my teeth,i had my lunch,came back and then brushed my teeth and was watching some movie on laptop.Then one of my good friends said they were all going to chandigarh as he along with 10 others was throwing a party.....He and I both knew I was not going to come as I had taken a vow that I will not attend any parties and will not throw any parties to either celebrate success or overcome failure...... but still he asked me as a matter of convention .Many asked me the reason for that as to why i took that vow to which I gave no one a proper reason,but i will list all those reasons in the end.So as usual i dint go with them but went to chandigarh nevertheless eo watch RAKHT CHARITRA(after all Ramu's comeback film) and came back all by myself.Mind you its a very good film,do watch it.
So i came back and started watching my film on the laptop.Ny the time the movie finished the party returned..............So now it was time for statistics.....as to how much was the bill at KFC,DOMINOS,etc etc................who paid how much.......so as far as statistics went
67 HEADS
30,000INR total expenditure
6500INR for movie tickets
23500INR for food,drinks etc.............
so each party thrower had to pay 2900INR towards this event.Iam not going eo write here the reaction of the hosts as that would mean evasion of privacy and confidentiality but let me tell you my opinion on the whole episode
Each head ate for 350INR and the worth of each ticket is 100INR............leaving the movie ticket thing aside
each person ate for Rs350,So normalizing everything it implies each person ate an 8pc chicken bucket and for those who have not eaten it so far,let me tell you even the monster called Sreeram can't do it without stuffing his oesophagus.
Why iam saying all this calculation is when i go out with people for dinner(each paying his own share),people hardly eat for more than rs 150 and assholes like me eat for 200rs max be it KFC or Hotel sahil or LILY's.
So eating for Rs 350 implies either starvation or something else
Starvation is out of context,so i began searching for reasons.
Then i came to the conclusion that the answer lies in the human psyche itself.Average party goers mentality
1.It is coming for free,so stuff as much as you can,once in a month oppurtunity
2.Iam not paying the money
3.Lets take the costliest one.
4.All these buggers ate like garangutans on my birthday,so lets load him as well
Of all these i would like to highlight the last one,i think that aspect of human psyche is common to ragging and saas bahu sagas as well.
We respected our seniors,we did all that was told, so our juniors should do the same
We respected our saas,we did all that was told, so our bahu should do the same
humans feel it is their time to win from the other side of the game and this for me shows deep rooted sadism.So now the reasons i dont give parties is
1.I value money, both mine as well as others.So i wont load anyone and i dont want anyone to load me.
2.Iam not so rich to throw parties worth 3000rs everytime.
3.I hate to entertain people whose main aim is to load just for the only reason that IT IS FREE.
4.People who think twice for drinking a coffee worth rs 5 in fuelzap,if they dont think once before drinking a coffee of rs 110 at some posh hi fi bakery,i see no reason why i shud pay that bill
Note:Though the criticism does not refer to everyone,i stand by the general nature of criticism
And iam not a person washed by milk(doodh se dhula)my character is even worse and i will write abt them in the next post
Great person is not the one without shortcomings but the one who does not fear to accept them-sreeram(just felt like it)
ex-mahatma gandhi
I have been met with many questions as to why iam against parties.This is an answer.
Yesterday was one of those usual lazy saturdays that started of for me at 12 noon.Without brushing my teeth,i had my lunch,came back and then brushed my teeth and was watching some movie on laptop.Then one of my good friends said they were all going to chandigarh as he along with 10 others was throwing a party.....He and I both knew I was not going to come as I had taken a vow that I will not attend any parties and will not throw any parties to either celebrate success or overcome failure...... but still he asked me as a matter of convention .Many asked me the reason for that as to why i took that vow to which I gave no one a proper reason,but i will list all those reasons in the end.So as usual i dint go with them but went to chandigarh nevertheless eo watch RAKHT CHARITRA(after all Ramu's comeback film) and came back all by myself.Mind you its a very good film,do watch it.
So i came back and started watching my film on the laptop.Ny the time the movie finished the party returned..............So now it was time for statistics.....as to how much was the bill at KFC,DOMINOS,etc etc................who paid how much.......so as far as statistics went
67 HEADS
30,000INR total expenditure
6500INR for movie tickets
23500INR for food,drinks etc.............
so each party thrower had to pay 2900INR towards this event.Iam not going eo write here the reaction of the hosts as that would mean evasion of privacy and confidentiality but let me tell you my opinion on the whole episode
Each head ate for 350INR and the worth of each ticket is 100INR............leaving the movie ticket thing aside
each person ate for Rs350,So normalizing everything it implies each person ate an 8pc chicken bucket and for those who have not eaten it so far,let me tell you even the monster called Sreeram can't do it without stuffing his oesophagus.
Why iam saying all this calculation is when i go out with people for dinner(each paying his own share),people hardly eat for more than rs 150 and assholes like me eat for 200rs max be it KFC or Hotel sahil or LILY's.
So eating for Rs 350 implies either starvation or something else
Starvation is out of context,so i began searching for reasons.
Then i came to the conclusion that the answer lies in the human psyche itself.Average party goers mentality
1.It is coming for free,so stuff as much as you can,once in a month oppurtunity
2.Iam not paying the money
3.Lets take the costliest one.
4.All these buggers ate like garangutans on my birthday,so lets load him as well
Of all these i would like to highlight the last one,i think that aspect of human psyche is common to ragging and saas bahu sagas as well.
We respected our seniors,we did all that was told, so our juniors should do the same
We respected our saas,we did all that was told, so our bahu should do the same
humans feel it is their time to win from the other side of the game and this for me shows deep rooted sadism.So now the reasons i dont give parties is
1.I value money, both mine as well as others.So i wont load anyone and i dont want anyone to load me.
2.Iam not so rich to throw parties worth 3000rs everytime.
3.I hate to entertain people whose main aim is to load just for the only reason that IT IS FREE.
4.People who think twice for drinking a coffee worth rs 5 in fuelzap,if they dont think once before drinking a coffee of rs 110 at some posh hi fi bakery,i see no reason why i shud pay that bill
Note:Though the criticism does not refer to everyone,i stand by the general nature of criticism
And iam not a person washed by milk(doodh se dhula)my character is even worse and i will write abt them in the next post
Great person is not the one without shortcomings but the one who does not fear to accept them-sreeram(just felt like it)
ex-mahatma gandhi
Monday, October 11, 2010
Oh ji .......suniye..................Haan ji boliye...........my foot
Just a few days back,i was on my usual late night debating session with some of my friends. We generally take about a lot of shit right from food in the mess to common wealth games.Then someone started the topic of marriage(natural,for a gf starved lot),and after a whirlwind of things being discussed the topic came to the qualities expected in your wife.Since most of you know the people in our hostel,iam not revealing their names but this is what he had to say...........
IITian 1: My wife should be beautiful,respect my parents and me(parivaar ka khyaal rakhna crap) and be a house wife.
sreeam: Why housewife?
IITian : I dont like women going around and working,it looks odd to me
Sreeram:Why does it look odd to you?
IITian:Dont know ,whenever i think of women i remeber kitchen,children,cooking....earning is for the men lot.
He also added that he would not like it if his wife called him by his name..........he wanted his wife to refer to him as "oh ji............haan ji"etc kinda usual shit.
Now lets go to IITIAN 2
IITian 2: I would not mind if my wife is working.......but she should not be earning more than me because that will make me lose control over her........I want her to be under limits set by me and you can't do that when she earns more.And moreover i will lose respect in my community.
Now there were lot of other comments put in by others,some like the above two,someone against it,some in between and so on.........
But I want to highlight the following above two comments
Both are IITians,the best brains in the country.............But still they could not accept the fact that wife/women in general is no way inferior to them.
Actually i wanted to highlight the gender bias but an doing this through the concept of Wife...........
In India however forward we become economically,we still lag behind in our social stature...............Of course our epics and whatever was written even before 100s of years respected the woman but they typecasted and stereotyped the Indian woman,so anyone faltering from the path is termed SLUT or randi.
A seedha saadha girl is termed innocent and backward and a modern girl with rebellious views is called A BITCH by this society.
Our society has set boundaries for woman and anyone crossing that boundaries is an outcast
Even in BEND IT LIKE BECKHAM parminder nagra(jasminder aka jess) while speaking to a photo of beckham questions...........Why is it that girls should return back home early for help and boys needn't,its so unfair
some more dialogues from the same to highlight this issue
"who would want a daughter in law who kicks football all day and can't make round chappatties"
I mean are woman entities being prepared for an exam called marriage or something....DONT THEY HAVE GOALS....ASPIRATIONS............LIKES...............DISLIKES
Its high time we give woman their due and make them enjoy freedom as much as the boys do.the freedom should be in limits based on situation and not gender
AND FOR GOD'S SAKE NO "HAAN JI BOLIYE" and "oh ji suniye" crap again
IITian 1: My wife should be beautiful,respect my parents and me(parivaar ka khyaal rakhna crap) and be a house wife.
sreeam: Why housewife?
IITian : I dont like women going around and working,it looks odd to me
Sreeram:Why does it look odd to you?
IITian:Dont know ,whenever i think of women i remeber kitchen,children,cooking....earning is for the men lot.
He also added that he would not like it if his wife called him by his name..........he wanted his wife to refer to him as "oh ji............haan ji"etc kinda usual shit.
Now lets go to IITIAN 2
IITian 2: I would not mind if my wife is working.......but she should not be earning more than me because that will make me lose control over her........I want her to be under limits set by me and you can't do that when she earns more.And moreover i will lose respect in my community.
Now there were lot of other comments put in by others,some like the above two,someone against it,some in between and so on.........
But I want to highlight the following above two comments
Both are IITians,the best brains in the country.............But still they could not accept the fact that wife/women in general is no way inferior to them.
Actually i wanted to highlight the gender bias but an doing this through the concept of Wife...........
In India however forward we become economically,we still lag behind in our social stature...............Of course our epics and whatever was written even before 100s of years respected the woman but they typecasted and stereotyped the Indian woman,so anyone faltering from the path is termed SLUT or randi.
A seedha saadha girl is termed innocent and backward and a modern girl with rebellious views is called A BITCH by this society.
Our society has set boundaries for woman and anyone crossing that boundaries is an outcast
Even in BEND IT LIKE BECKHAM parminder nagra(jasminder aka jess) while speaking to a photo of beckham questions...........Why is it that girls should return back home early for help and boys needn't,its so unfair
some more dialogues from the same to highlight this issue
"who would want a daughter in law who kicks football all day and can't make round chappatties"
I mean are woman entities being prepared for an exam called marriage or something....DONT THEY HAVE GOALS....ASPIRATIONS............LIKES...............DISLIKES
Its high time we give woman their due and make them enjoy freedom as much as the boys do.the freedom should be in limits based on situation and not gender
AND FOR GOD'S SAKE NO "HAAN JI BOLIYE" and "oh ji suniye" crap again
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
ADULT RATED-viewer discretion is recommended(18+)
As soon as you read the above title most of you might have straightened your backs up.The topic is such that most of you are curious to know what is written further.Because there are some words in the country which are considered a taboo.No one is supposed to speak,read,write or show these things on a mass platform.But things like these have become a part of every adoloscent's life.For various reasons you might have already developed an impression on the author and some of your thoughts might be
1.WHAT A CHEAP THING TO WRITE ABOUT.
2.AB TOH MAZAAAAA AAYEGA BHAI......!!!!!!!!!!.
3.Ohh I Havent watched it for over a week,thanks for reminding.Where is the hard disk beh**chod!!!!!!!!!!
4.OHH bhai,Yeh banda stud hai
5.Arey yeh ch**iya studdapa dikha raha hain.
These might be most of your thoughts.And these are my answers to the following thoughts in the same order
1.IT IS THIS "CHEAP" THING YOU RELY ON FOR SATISFACTION.
2.I HOPE YOU WILL.
3.Ohh YEAH..you will definitely feel better watching it than reading this.GOOD CHOICE!!!
4.I ALREADY KNOW THIS.
5.WHY ELSE DO YOU THINK IAM WRITING A BLOG.
And i would like to make one more thing clear.This post is not intended to justify or testify ones habits.We are not making a judgement.Iam just presenting you facts as seen through my eyes and giving my views in my own way.
READER DISCRETION IS RECOMMENDED.
Having given my answers and disclaimer let me start off.
The entire adoloscent period can be resolved into two stages
STAGE 1
The thing starts off somewhere in sixth class.(for me it did).It just happens that when you are changing channels on tv at 11 pm in the night,all of a sudden your hands refuse to go to the next channel because MIDNIGHT HOT is on.Now i need not describe what this MIDNIGHT HOT is.Because as per my peers i started late,most of them started it in 4th std itself.During this period we start to see girls in places other than the face.(DONT KNOW WHERE GIRLS SEE WHEN THEY SEE BOYS)
From FTV,we move on to HBO,AXN,STAR MOVIES,ZEE MGM(now zee studio) because they seem to show better things,especially right after the 9pm movie.Thus starts the nights where we have to study while our parents are asleep,we switch on the tv and watch the channels on mute with one finger on the mute to restart the sound when parents wake up for water and other button which goes back to the prev channel and all these things should be done simultaneously,like waiting for the door sound,clicking on the buttons simultaneously and all this should happen before 1/16th of a second because that is the time it would take for a human to establish what is happening.And most of the times we are successful and when parents ask WHY ARE YOU NOT STUDYING,we are ready with an answer JUST TRYING TO RELAX FOR 1/2 HR BEFORE STARTING TO STUDY AGAIN.This happens for the next 3-4 years.
STAGE 2
When you are in 9th or 10th std,a new gadget comes into most households.THE COMPUTER.Supposedly parents buy it so that his/her child has access to all the knowledge in the world.Friends come to home in large numbers with dvds or cds(in case you dont have internet connection) for COMBINED STUDIES.And the combined studies are done behind closed doors for obvious reasons,the reason said outside is DONT DISTURB,WE HAVE A TEST TOMORROW.Some people might even go to cinema halls far away from their homes to catch a glimpse of it on a large screen.This goes on for the next 2 years.
PORNO STAGE
This stage starts from the middle of 12th class and may last for 2-3 years ending the adoloscent age once and for all.With gained profound knowledge of the computer and internet and its various benifits people resort to porn.More than the need of satisfaction the need for overcome of frustration in academics is the prime reason(especially in iitians).Once we entered iit the habit intensifies because the hostel is full of such people.And it is no longer sin and there is no fear of being caught.Exchange of MAAL is as common as exchange of iit material in 12th std.Normally there are two kinds of people in the hostel(not everyone but 98percent)
1.PEOPLE WHO WATCH PORN.
2.PEOPLE WHO ACT AS IF THEY DONT WATCH PORN.
After 6 months of starting there are no people of type 2 left,because either they are caught or they themselves get the courage to admit it openly.
No matter however SEEDHA a person may look 99 on 100 times he is a porn watcher
EVEN THE TOPPER,EVEN THE NERD,EVEN THE FOOLISH LOOKING,OILED HAIR,THICK SPECTACLED SHORT, THIN MAN IS SOMEONE WHO IS INFLUENCED OR ADDICTED BY IT.
It is during this stage a banana,a carrot and a raddish are seen in more ways than just as a vegetable.
The proof for my claim is non availability of a CERTAIN HARD DISK which had all the MAAL.The owner never had it with him as students always wanted it for obvious reasons.(Damn it ,i got it only once)
It is not that PORN watchers are bad people or bad in academics.There are brilliants ,geniuses who watch it everyday,there are great human beings who watch it everday.THIS LASTS UNTIL THE 3RD YEAR OR MAY BE 4TH AND ULTIMATELY PEOPLE GENERALLY LOSE INTEREST IN IT.
According to my friends even girls are avid porn watchers.They are as much addicted to it as men.Though i have no solid survey,or proof in this regd i heard many such stories but I wont comment on it.
I think PORN is the KAMASUTRA for todays generation(not that it is as scientific,but it enjoys as much stature).Like it or not it is today's generation's guide to sex and it has become such a rage that as per reports The porn industry is bigger than INDIAN FILM INDUSTRY.PORN TODAY IS WHAT KHAJURAHO WAS TO THE MEDIEVAL PERIOD.
DISCLAIMER: THIS POST DOES NOT INTEND TO DISCUSS THE MORALITY ISSUES REGARDING THE FOLLOWING SUBJECT,IT IS A CHOICE OF INDIVIDUAL PERCEPTION.IT IS MY REPRESENTATION OF PRESENT HAPPENINGS IN THE FOLLOWING CONTEXT.THIS POST NOWHERE INTENDS TO GLORIFY THE ABOVE MENTIONED ACTIVITIES.
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1.WHAT A CHEAP THING TO WRITE ABOUT.
2.AB TOH MAZAAAAA AAYEGA BHAI......!!!!!!!!!!.
3.Ohh I Havent watched it for over a week,thanks for reminding.Where is the hard disk beh**chod!!!!!!!!!!
4.OHH bhai,Yeh banda stud hai
5.Arey yeh ch**iya studdapa dikha raha hain.
These might be most of your thoughts.And these are my answers to the following thoughts in the same order
1.IT IS THIS "CHEAP" THING YOU RELY ON FOR SATISFACTION.
2.I HOPE YOU WILL.
3.Ohh YEAH..you will definitely feel better watching it than reading this.GOOD CHOICE!!!
4.I ALREADY KNOW THIS.
5.WHY ELSE DO YOU THINK IAM WRITING A BLOG.
And i would like to make one more thing clear.This post is not intended to justify or testify ones habits.We are not making a judgement.Iam just presenting you facts as seen through my eyes and giving my views in my own way.
READER DISCRETION IS RECOMMENDED.
Having given my answers and disclaimer let me start off.
The entire adoloscent period can be resolved into two stages
STAGE 1
The thing starts off somewhere in sixth class.(for me it did).It just happens that when you are changing channels on tv at 11 pm in the night,all of a sudden your hands refuse to go to the next channel because MIDNIGHT HOT is on.Now i need not describe what this MIDNIGHT HOT is.Because as per my peers i started late,most of them started it in 4th std itself.During this period we start to see girls in places other than the face.(DONT KNOW WHERE GIRLS SEE WHEN THEY SEE BOYS)
From FTV,we move on to HBO,AXN,STAR MOVIES,ZEE MGM(now zee studio) because they seem to show better things,especially right after the 9pm movie.Thus starts the nights where we have to study while our parents are asleep,we switch on the tv and watch the channels on mute with one finger on the mute to restart the sound when parents wake up for water and other button which goes back to the prev channel and all these things should be done simultaneously,like waiting for the door sound,clicking on the buttons simultaneously and all this should happen before 1/16th of a second because that is the time it would take for a human to establish what is happening.And most of the times we are successful and when parents ask WHY ARE YOU NOT STUDYING,we are ready with an answer JUST TRYING TO RELAX FOR 1/2 HR BEFORE STARTING TO STUDY AGAIN.This happens for the next 3-4 years.
STAGE 2
When you are in 9th or 10th std,a new gadget comes into most households.THE COMPUTER.Supposedly parents buy it so that his/her child has access to all the knowledge in the world.Friends come to home in large numbers with dvds or cds(in case you dont have internet connection) for COMBINED STUDIES.And the combined studies are done behind closed doors for obvious reasons,the reason said outside is DONT DISTURB,WE HAVE A TEST TOMORROW.Some people might even go to cinema halls far away from their homes to catch a glimpse of it on a large screen.This goes on for the next 2 years.
PORNO STAGE
This stage starts from the middle of 12th class and may last for 2-3 years ending the adoloscent age once and for all.With gained profound knowledge of the computer and internet and its various benifits people resort to porn.More than the need of satisfaction the need for overcome of frustration in academics is the prime reason(especially in iitians).Once we entered iit the habit intensifies because the hostel is full of such people.And it is no longer sin and there is no fear of being caught.Exchange of MAAL is as common as exchange of iit material in 12th std.Normally there are two kinds of people in the hostel(not everyone but 98percent)
1.PEOPLE WHO WATCH PORN.
2.PEOPLE WHO ACT AS IF THEY DONT WATCH PORN.
After 6 months of starting there are no people of type 2 left,because either they are caught or they themselves get the courage to admit it openly.
No matter however SEEDHA a person may look 99 on 100 times he is a porn watcher
EVEN THE TOPPER,EVEN THE NERD,EVEN THE FOOLISH LOOKING,OILED HAIR,THICK SPECTACLED SHORT, THIN MAN IS SOMEONE WHO IS INFLUENCED OR ADDICTED BY IT.
It is during this stage a banana,a carrot and a raddish are seen in more ways than just as a vegetable.
The proof for my claim is non availability of a CERTAIN HARD DISK which had all the MAAL.The owner never had it with him as students always wanted it for obvious reasons.(Damn it ,i got it only once)
It is not that PORN watchers are bad people or bad in academics.There are brilliants ,geniuses who watch it everyday,there are great human beings who watch it everday.THIS LASTS UNTIL THE 3RD YEAR OR MAY BE 4TH AND ULTIMATELY PEOPLE GENERALLY LOSE INTEREST IN IT.
According to my friends even girls are avid porn watchers.They are as much addicted to it as men.Though i have no solid survey,or proof in this regd i heard many such stories but I wont comment on it.
I think PORN is the KAMASUTRA for todays generation(not that it is as scientific,but it enjoys as much stature).Like it or not it is today's generation's guide to sex and it has become such a rage that as per reports The porn industry is bigger than INDIAN FILM INDUSTRY.PORN TODAY IS WHAT KHAJURAHO WAS TO THE MEDIEVAL PERIOD.
DISCLAIMER: THIS POST DOES NOT INTEND TO DISCUSS THE MORALITY ISSUES REGARDING THE FOLLOWING SUBJECT,IT IS A CHOICE OF INDIVIDUAL PERCEPTION.IT IS MY REPRESENTATION OF PRESENT HAPPENINGS IN THE FOLLOWING CONTEXT.THIS POST NOWHERE INTENDS TO GLORIFY THE ABOVE MENTIONED ACTIVITIES.
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Wednesday, July 28, 2010
No problem,NO KICK
Life has been going on smoothly lately,and thats been my main problem.Because when everything is going on smoothly and there is no problem that in itself becomes the main problem.Now this is a state everyone has been through but cant define why exactly you are feeling so.The reason is NO KICK.The post came out because off late i saw the movie "KICK" 4 times in 1 day.Lets define KICK.
Its very difficult to define KICK but closely it is the feeling when you achieve something unachievable or dangerous.Its the feeling when you pull off something unimaginable.
If you have never experienced KICK in your life,let me describe you the feeling.Imagine a situation when you have to urgently attend nature's call.You realise that all bathrooms are occupied.As all of you know nature cant wait and so cant you.So you lose all hope and just then someone comes out of the bathroom.Imagine the feeling of satisfaction you feel as if you have won a war.KICK is a similar feeling though not same.
Off late i have been playing a lot of cricket,sometimes even for 3 hours a day,but i realized i was not getting the pleasure i used to get when i played cricket during the time of majors.When i thought of the possible reasons,they were
1.NOW I HAVE A LOT OF TIME IN HAND,PLAYING CRICKET WAS SOMETHING EASILY AVAILABLE.
2.when majors were in progress i had to earn free time by studying fast ,i had to earn the time which gave me immense satisfaction while playing cricket.
3.SINCE I WAS STRESSED OUT DURING MAJORS,CRICKET WORKED AS A STRESS BUSTER,NOW ITS MERELY AN EXERCISE.
4.(MOST IMPORTANT)ALL MY FRIENDS WERE STUDYING AND I WAS THE ONLY ONE PRACTISING CRICKET WHICH GAVE ME A LOT OF KICK
if u observe all the above reasons one point is common.It is better to have a problem and solve it than having no problem at all.because the bottom line
SOLVING A PROBLEM DOES NOT JUST GIVE YOU A SOLUTION,IT GIVES YOU A KICK.
Let me take another example
When an exam finishes,when i see the reaction of my friends,these are some of the reactions i notice
1.TOPPERS(CG>9.00):Yeah,the exam is over,lets prepare for the next one
2.ABOVE AVG(CG>8.00):Oh,i got that one wrong,shit yaar
3.AVG AND BELOW AVG(CG<8.00):OHH BEHENCHOD!!! JO MAIN LAST 5 MIN MEIN PADHA WOH SEEDHA AA GAYA,POORA CHEP DIYA,MAST HUA,MAIN SOCH RAHA THA FAIL HOONGA,LEKIN PASS JAROOR HONGA,MAST HAI YAAR BEHENCHOD!!!!!!!
It is very obvious that the last group experiences more KICK than anybody else.
When i asked kaustubh aka costume WHY DONT YOU GET YOURSELF A GIRLFRIEND? He replied getting "A GIRLFRIEND" is not an issue and that is easily available.but getting yourself THE BEST GIRL is important as they are rare and even the ones who exist are not easily available.getting such girl as your girlfriend gives him the real KICK.
SO THE POINT I WANT TO PUT FORWARD IS
KICK LIES IN THE LIVES OF PEOPLE WHO COMPLICATE THEIR LIVES AND SOLVE IT THEMSELVES.
may everyone be blessed with the best of KICK in their lives
DISCLAIMER:1.THOUGH MY CG IS 8.42 I BELONG TO THE 3rd GROUP
NOTE:ANY GIRL WHO THINKS SHE IS THE BEST CAN APPROACH KAUSTUBH AS I ASSURE YOU HE IS THE BEST AFTER ME
Its very difficult to define KICK but closely it is the feeling when you achieve something unachievable or dangerous.Its the feeling when you pull off something unimaginable.
If you have never experienced KICK in your life,let me describe you the feeling.Imagine a situation when you have to urgently attend nature's call.You realise that all bathrooms are occupied.As all of you know nature cant wait and so cant you.So you lose all hope and just then someone comes out of the bathroom.Imagine the feeling of satisfaction you feel as if you have won a war.KICK is a similar feeling though not same.
Off late i have been playing a lot of cricket,sometimes even for 3 hours a day,but i realized i was not getting the pleasure i used to get when i played cricket during the time of majors.When i thought of the possible reasons,they were
1.NOW I HAVE A LOT OF TIME IN HAND,PLAYING CRICKET WAS SOMETHING EASILY AVAILABLE.
2.when majors were in progress i had to earn free time by studying fast ,i had to earn the time which gave me immense satisfaction while playing cricket.
3.SINCE I WAS STRESSED OUT DURING MAJORS,CRICKET WORKED AS A STRESS BUSTER,NOW ITS MERELY AN EXERCISE.
4.(MOST IMPORTANT)ALL MY FRIENDS WERE STUDYING AND I WAS THE ONLY ONE PRACTISING CRICKET WHICH GAVE ME A LOT OF KICK
if u observe all the above reasons one point is common.It is better to have a problem and solve it than having no problem at all.because the bottom line
SOLVING A PROBLEM DOES NOT JUST GIVE YOU A SOLUTION,IT GIVES YOU A KICK.
Let me take another example
When an exam finishes,when i see the reaction of my friends,these are some of the reactions i notice
1.TOPPERS(CG>9.00):Yeah,the exam is over,lets prepare for the next one
2.ABOVE AVG(CG>8.00):Oh,i got that one wrong,shit yaar
3.AVG AND BELOW AVG(CG<8.00):OHH BEHENCHOD!!! JO MAIN LAST 5 MIN MEIN PADHA WOH SEEDHA AA GAYA,POORA CHEP DIYA,MAST HUA,MAIN SOCH RAHA THA FAIL HOONGA,LEKIN PASS JAROOR HONGA,MAST HAI YAAR BEHENCHOD!!!!!!!
It is very obvious that the last group experiences more KICK than anybody else.
When i asked kaustubh aka costume WHY DONT YOU GET YOURSELF A GIRLFRIEND? He replied getting "A GIRLFRIEND" is not an issue and that is easily available.but getting yourself THE BEST GIRL is important as they are rare and even the ones who exist are not easily available.getting such girl as your girlfriend gives him the real KICK.
SO THE POINT I WANT TO PUT FORWARD IS
KICK LIES IN THE LIVES OF PEOPLE WHO COMPLICATE THEIR LIVES AND SOLVE IT THEMSELVES.
may everyone be blessed with the best of KICK in their lives
DISCLAIMER:1.THOUGH MY CG IS 8.42 I BELONG TO THE 3rd GROUP
NOTE:ANY GIRL WHO THINKS SHE IS THE BEST CAN APPROACH KAUSTUBH AS I ASSURE YOU HE IS THE BEST AFTER ME
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